How to Deal with Jealousy and Insecurity in a Relationship

Jealousy is a complex emotion that encompasses feelings ranging from anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness or disgust. In its original meaning, jealousy is distinct from envy the circumstances that lead up to jealousy, jealousy itself as emotion, any attempt at self-regulation, subsequent actions and events and the resolution of the episode.

The narrative can originate from experienced facts, thoughts, perceptions, memories, but also imagination, assumptions.

It strikes people of all ages, genders, and sexual orientations, and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. The threat may be real or imagined. Jealousy is often thought of in the context of romantic relationships, but the feeling can occur in almost every type of relationship from siblings competing for parental attention to coworkers trying to impress a respected boss.

Although jealousy is a painful emotional experience, evolutionary psychologists regard it not as an emotion to be suppressed but as one to heed as a signal or a wake-up call that a valued relationship is in danger and that steps need to be taken.

Even though it may feel taboo, acknowledging jealousy's presence can both help strengthen a relationship in the present. Exploring the emotions that underpin jealousy can inspire self-reflection that may help to develop internal coping skills. Being honest with the other party about jealous feelings can spur productive conversations about what the relationship might be missing and how to repair the bond.

Through our hypnotherapy session, we will look at the ‘dynamics’ of the relationship where you feel jealous. Sometimes jealousy can be a trigger of unresolved insecurities from the past. Jealousy as a single emotion, it’s a mixture of different feelings: fear of loss, a sense of inadequacy, hurt, sadness, pain, anxiety, self-doubt, anger and, sometimes, outright rage self-esteem. Hypnotherapy can heal any past conflicts to move forward, feeling more trusting and secure.