Break Free from an Unhealthy Relationship With Hypnotherapy
Who you’re attracted to may not be who's best for you
Unhealthy relationships can be extremely hard to end. Their very nature makes people feel insecure, trapped and helpless. You need to muster all your courage and plan carefully to leave a relationship like this.
Warning Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Controlling or manipulative behaviour
Co-dependent relationship
Violence
Anxiety or depression
Fear
Guilt
Constant fighting
Avoidance of the other person
Jealousy, insecurity and lack of trust
Changing an Unhealthy Relationship
If you recognise a lot of these in your relationship it may be that you are in a destructive or unhealthy relationship. Couples counselling or relationship coaching can help you work out your issues if you both want to try and maintain the relationship. If things have progressed beyond this stage, it could be time to end the relationship. Trust your gut and make the decision that’s right for you.
How to Break Free
Once you know you’re in an unhealthy relationship and have made up your mind to leave you need to focus and plan carefully.
Think of all the reasons you want to leave
These could include increased freedom, improved confidence, enjoying friends and family, less anxiety.
Plan what you’ll say
Keep it short and don’t feel like you have to list all the reasons. Try to keep calm and matter of fact. Be prepared and be firm in your delivery. Stay aware of the manipulation.
Plan how you’ll say it
Choose your time carefully. Don’t choose a time when either of you has been drinking or in the middle of a very stressful event. Keep your distance and don’t give in to controlling contacts. If things are really bad it might be that you prefer to leave a note rather than face the person directly.
Consider practicalities
If you live together or have a lot of things at their house consider how you’ll get your belongings and where you’ll stay. Have something in place beforehand so you aren’t stranded. Pack your belongings first if possible or, if you have to go back and get them afterwards, consider taking some friends to help. Don’t tell the other person where you’re going, you must be able to be alone.
Mourn
Even when you know it’s the right thing to do, break-ups can still be tough. End the relationship in your mind before you end it with the other person. Then allow yourself time to mourn but reassure yourself that you’ve made the right choice for yourself.
Avoid contact
Once you’re free avoid contact with the other person. Give yourself time to adjust and don’t be tempted to go back.
Seek comfort
Get support from trusted friends and family. Stay busy and remember what used to make you happy – work, hobbies etc.
Stand back
After a while, when you look at how far you’ve come, you’ll realise how much happier you are. Be proud of yourself for making this move and make a promise to yourself to try and avoid this type of relationship in the future.
You may want to get some support if you feel yourself repeatedly attracted to destructive relationships. Hypnotherapy is a very effective tool for tackling subconscious issues such as this.
Relationship Coaching and Hypnotherapy for Unhealthy Relationships
As an experienced couples therapist, I have worked with many different types of relationships. Whatever your issues, relationship coaching or hypnotherapy can help you make positive changes.
Contact me to learn more about how I can help or arrange a free consultation. I can offer a free, no-obligation consultation and sessions either face to face in my London hypnotherapy clinic or via online hypnotherapy.
